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WHEN IT COMES TO ROMANTIC LOVE, IS THE PRIZE WORTH THE PRICE YOU PAY FOR IT?

If you ask thousands of guys, they'll tell you they think women are "a little crazy." This has been an easy conclusion for men to reach, because they're accustomed to putting their feelings and needs aside, so as not to make waves or create conflict with their significant other. Discord with their lover they've learned, means affection and sexual interplay will not be available to them for an indefinite period of time.

When it comes to the subject of Emotions, many men see women as somewhat trigger-happy. Emotional volatility in females appears to have been long-accepted by males and even taken for granted as a certainty one must accommodate, when one thinks of entering a romantic liaison with the fairer sex. In short, it just "goes with the territory," when ya fall in love. But DOES IT??

How did so many men acquire the idea, that if they crave love and sex with a female, CRAZINESS comes with the package? Did it happen merely by chance~ or is it the result of decades of encountering the same outcome with every female they try to bond with?! I propose it's the latter.

The question that begs to be asked of millions of men therefore, becomes: Is the Prize worth the Price a man pays for "Love??"

I've stated for decades, who we grow up loving, whether they RETURNED our adoration or not, is who we bond with in adulthood. If you were raised by a mom with BPD traits, you'll be attracted to these features in every female you want to pursue in adulthood.

Far too many men and women associate painful feelings of longing and yearning for warmth and affection with the emotion of love, itself. This grew into a learned definition of "love" we adopted as infants and young children, due to never having been ABLE to receive the kind of nurturance from our mothers we needed, to affirm that we were lovable and good enough. That constant hunger in us was never adequately met, and we've sought to satisfy our insatiable appetite for love and affection, ever since!

It matters NOT how many times a parent SAYS "I love you." What a small child interprets and understands as his lovability, are physical gestures of warmth and affection COMBINED with tender words of acknowledgment and praise. You can tell a dog all day long that you love him, but if you neglect to pet and play with that animal, does he KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt, you really do? It's the same with human children.

Emotionally sound, healthy people are NOT drawn into relationships with Borderlines. We have no frame of reference or threshold for accepting or tolerating neglect or abuse from another. It's not a part of our life experience. It feels foreign and profoundly uncomfortable. We're inclined to run like hell away from any source that triggers this discomfort in us, as fast as possible.

Regardless of whatever inner wounding a Borderline grew up with, if we stick with that person (no matter HOW great the sex is with him or her) we incurred wounds in childhood that precisely MATCH theirs. The difference is, we can feel compassion for our Borderline's childhood emotional injuries, but never our own.

WE grew up needing to become powerful and in-control. The way we kept ourselves going and surmounted our setbacks and challenges, may have turned us into Super-givers in the process, which can only attract someone who cannot give back to us, but whose survival depends on taking whatever they CAN.

For many compulsive givers (or Codependents), this means they're a bottomless pit of giving, while their partner is a bottomless pit of need that can NEVER be filled or satisfied. When you're involved with a borderline disordered lover, you give up chunks of yourself and compromise, until there's virtually nothing left of You.

And why do men and women do this, you ask? The answer is simple: They do it for "Love" ~at least, what they THINK true love is supposed to feel like, based on their earliest, somewhat painful experiences with that emotion.

Self-actualized, emotionally well-developed, healthy, real women DO exist, though they're rare. They are not erratic in mood or temperament, nor do they seem "a little crazy." They enjoy serenity and calm, and are as deeply invested in maintaining a harmonious relationship bond, as You are.

Sex and affection are not used as manipulation tactics, nor are they withheld from you indefinitely, if a disappointment or disagreement erupts. A real woman wants to resolve misunderstandings with you as quickly and thoroughly as possible, and works WITH you to build more trust and intimacy, so you can grow an even deeper bond as a couple.

So men, try to remember that what you expect out of life and love, is what you create and accommodate. Think about finding expert guidance to get a bit healthier, so you can start being attracted to women who can supply the love you NEED, without having to make huge compromises, to get it.

In MY world view, 80% of humans living on planet Earth have Borderline Personality Disorder traits (I've become known for my writings on this topic). BPD is a developmental disorder, meaning emotional growth/maturation became halted at a very early age, due to various feeling states having to be suppressed. In order to avert the threat of parental abandonment or abuse if he dared to express his true emotions, the Borderline-to-be forces his difficult feelings underground, and works lifelong to amputate them out of his personality structure. Self-judgement just from experiencing these types of emotions, causes shame and self-loathing, which is typically foisted onto others, thru a means called 'projection.'

A developmental deficit leaves one appearing naive, ignorant or foolish. We make room for young children and their fantasies and childlike beliefs. We even encourage special affinity for the Easter Bunny and Santa Clause... but we also expect people to outgrow those childhood attachments, as they mature.

People with Borderline Personality Disorder traits (like young children) see their world in black or white terms. There is no middle ground, grey area or circumspection in these people, because of how emotionally immature they are. Unlike grown adults, they're not capable of viewing life from a Big Picture perspective. They lack the life experience and emotional education to do so. In short, they're exceptionally gullible, which shapes OUR perception that they are frivolous and "foolish."

In today's world, this issue is hugely magnified among people who call themselves "Liberals." Every generation of adults complains that their teenagers are "weird, bizarre, difficult, rebellious trouble-makers." This is a developmental stage most outgrow as they enter adulthood, but people with BPD do not. Have you ever seen a middle-aged female dressed like a flashy, seductive adolescent? You're observing someone with BPD traits.

The sad reality is, an emotionally undercooked individual never develops a solid, self-actualized sense of Self. They are never able to establish a healthy sense of identity. This spawns 'group think,' because just as adolescents are determined to be accepted and liked by their peers, the Borderline strives desperately for a sense of BELONGING~ even if it's to a tribe or group that lacks a sturdy, common-sense foundation.

Negotiating life with borderline disordered people is a frustrating experience for the rest of us. We find it nearly impossible to accommodate what we deem is acute naivete' or gullibility in others who LOOK like adults, but who are really emotional toddlers, trying to navigate life in adult bodies.

Too many people (laymen AND therapists) view BPD as a "mental illness." It is definitely NOT that, but rather a complex set of symptoms that include emotional dysregulation and dissociation, based on having had to disconnect from natural, normal (often darker) feelings from around the age of 2 onward, in order to 'get by' in one's family home.

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#Hillary fake black accent is better

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WHEN IT COMES TO ROMANTIC LOVE, IS THE PRIZE WORTH THE PRICE YOU PAY FOR IT?

If you ask thousands of guys, they'll tell you they think women are "a little crazy." This has been an easy conclusion for men to reach, because they're accustomed to putting their feelings and needs aside, so as not to make waves or create conflict with their significant other. Discord with their lover they've learned, means affection and sexual interplay will not be available to them for an indefinite period of time.

When it comes to the subject of Emotions, many men see women as somewhat trigger-happy. Emotional volatility in females appears to have been long-accepted by males and even taken for granted as a certainty one must accommodate, when one thinks of entering a romantic liaison with the fairer sex. In short, it just "goes with the territory," when ya fall in love. But DOES IT??

How did so many men acquire the idea, that if they crave love and sex with a female, CRAZINESS comes with the package? Did it happen merely by chance~ or is it the result of decades of encountering the same outcome with every female they try to bond with?! I propose it's the latter.

The question that begs to be asked of millions of men therefore, becomes: Is the Prize worth the Price a man pays for "Love??"

I've stated for decades, who we grow up loving, whether they RETURNED our adoration or not, is who we bond with in adulthood. If you were raised by a mom with BPD traits, you'll be attracted to these features in every female you want to pursue in adulthood.

Far too many men and women associate painful feelings of longing and yearning for warmth and affection with the emotion of love, itself. This grew into a learned definition of "love" we adopted as infants and young children, due to never having been ABLE to receive the kind of nurturance from our mothers we needed, to affirm that we were lovable and good enough. That constant hunger in us was never adequately met, and we've sought to satisfy our insatiable appetite for love and affection, ever since!

It matters NOT how many times a parent SAYS "I love you." What a small child interprets and understands as his lovability, are physical gestures of warmth and affection COMBINED with tender words of acknowledgment and praise. You can tell a dog all day long that you love him, but if you neglect to pet and play with that animal, does he KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt, you really do? It's the same with human children.

Emotionally sound, healthy people are NOT drawn into relationships with Borderlines. We have no frame of reference or threshold for accepting or tolerating neglect or abuse from another. It's not a part of our life experience. It feels foreign and profoundly uncomfortable. We're inclined to run like hell away from any source that triggers this discomfort in us, as fast as possible.

Regardless of whatever inner wounding a Borderline grew up with, if we stick with that person (no matter HOW great the sex is with him or her) we incurred wounds in childhood that precisely MATCH theirs. The difference is, we can feel compassion for our Borderline's childhood emotional injuries, but never our own.

WE grew up needing to become powerful and in-control. The way we kept ourselves going and surmounted our setbacks and challenges, may have turned us into Super-givers in the process, which can only attract someone who cannot give back to us, but whose survival depends on taking whatever they CAN.

For many compulsive givers (or Codependents), this means they're a bottomless pit of giving, while their partner is a bottomless pit of need that can NEVER be filled or satisfied. When you're involved with a borderline disordered lover, you give up chunks of yourself and compromise, until there's virtually nothing left of You.

And why do men and women do this, you ask? The answer is simple: They do it for "Love" ~at least, what they THINK true love is supposed to feel like, based on their earliest, somewhat painful experiences with that emotion.

Self-actualized, emotionally well-developed, healthy, real women DO exist, though they're rare. They are not erratic in mood or temperament, nor do they seem "a little crazy." They enjoy serenity and calm, and are as deeply invested in maintaining a harmonious relationship bond, as You are.

Sex and affection are not used as manipulation tactics, nor are they withheld from you indefinitely, if a disappointment or disagreement erupts. A real woman wants to resolve misunderstandings with you as quickly and thoroughly as possible, and works WITH you to build more trust and intimacy, so you can grow an even deeper bond as a couple.

So men, try to remember that what you expect out of life and love, is what you create and accommodate. Think about finding expert guidance to get a bit healthier, so you can start being attracted to women who can supply the love you NEED, without having to make huge compromises, to get it.

In MY world view, 80% of humans living on planet Earth have Borderline Personality Disorder traits (I've become known for my writings on this topic). BPD is a developmental disorder, meaning emotional growth/maturation became halted at a very early age, due to various feeling states having to be suppressed. In order to avert the threat of parental abandonment or abuse if he dared to express his true emotions, the Borderline-to-be forces his difficult feelings underground, and works lifelong to amputate them out of his personality structure. Self-judgement just from experiencing these types of emotions, causes shame and self-loathing, which is typically foisted onto others, thru a means called 'projection.'

A developmental deficit leaves one appearing naive, ignorant or foolish. We make room for young children and their fantasies and childlike beliefs. We even encourage special affinity for the Easter Bunny and Santa Clause... but we also expect people to outgrow those childhood attachments, as they mature.

People with Borderline Personality Disorder traits (like young children) see their world in black or white terms. There is no middle ground, grey area or circumspection in these people, because of how emotionally immature they are. Unlike grown adults, they're not capable of viewing life from a Big Picture perspective. They lack the life experience and emotional education to do so. In short, they're exceptionally gullible, which shapes OUR perception that they are frivolous and "foolish."

In today's world, this issue is hugely magnified among people who call themselves "Liberals." Every generation of adults complains that their teenagers are "weird, bizarre, difficult, rebellious trouble-makers." This is a developmental stage most outgrow as they enter adulthood, but people with BPD do not. Have you ever seen a middle-aged female dressed like a flashy, seductive adolescent? You're observing someone with BPD traits.

The sad reality is, an emotionally undercooked individual never develops a solid, self-actualized sense of Self. They are never able to establish a healthy sense of identity. This spawns 'group think,' because just as adolescents are determined to be accepted and liked by their peers, the Borderline strives desperately for a sense of BELONGING~ even if it's to a tribe or group that lacks a sturdy, common-sense foundation.

Negotiating life with borderline disordered people is a frustrating experience for the rest of us. We find it nearly impossible to accommodate what we deem is acute naivete' or gullibility in others who LOOK like adults, but who are really emotional toddlers, trying to navigate life in adult bodies.

Too many people (laymen AND therapists) view BPD as a "mental illness." It is definitely NOT that, but rather a complex set of symptoms that include emotional dysregulation and dissociation, based on having had to disconnect from natural, normal (often darker) feelings from around the age of 2 onward, in order to 'get by' in one's family home.

15 hrs ago

Fake Black Slave Owning Family Member Kamala Harris(D) Will Campaign in Urban Centers, Target Black Voters for Biden’s 2024 Campaign
https://legalinsurrection.com/2023/03/report-kamala-harris-will-campaign-in-urban-centers-target-black-voters-for-bidens-2024-campaign/
#Hillary fake black accent is better

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https://www.naturalnews.com/2023-03-20-blm-received-almost-83b-from-corporations-report.html

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