SHARI SCHREIBER MA
DEC 17, 2022 (Complements of Substack)
It's the subtleties most don't comprehend about people with BPD traits~ NOT the obvious, stigmatic stuff you read on the Web that keeps this disorder from being eradicated. Allow me to explain.
We mostly think of Borderlines as bad, evil, volatile, violent and manipulative, but these characteristics are far end of the spectrum features of BPD. The fact is, most Borderlines are never diagnosed, because this is the MOST misunderstood disorder by laymen and clinicians, alike.
Below, are a few subtle BPD traits that keep these poor souls impaired, yet they're never recognized, either when assessing for borderline aspects within ourselves, or others:
1. Self-sabotage or self-defeating choices and/or behaviors.
2. Getting involved with BPD lovers: We are attracted to people who match our OWN level of emotional development, whether we possess Codependency features, and are compulsive fixers or rescuers, or not. Plenty of Borderlines are Codependency dual-diagnosed, which is seen most often among psychotherapists, coaches, doctors, nurses, and other "helping" practitioners.
3. Fear of bonding or attaching fully. This deep seated fear has people with BPD traits selecting lovers who CANNOT reciprocate their affection, and with whom there can be no positive future outcome (this is always blamed on the other, incidentally).
4. Poor choice of therapeutic support. Psychotherapists, shamans, Reiki practitioners, holistic professionals, self-help venues, Emotional Freedom techniques, psychoanalysis, DBT, CBT, etc., are often just hope-filled, "quick-fix" distractions to one's ability to locate the kind of help they need, to dismantle narcissistic and borderline facets, and actually HEAL.
5. Anxiety issues or panic attacks. Nearly all people with BPD traits suffer with an ongoing level of anxiety. Obsessive-Compulsive features are very common among emotionally underdeveloped individuals, as well. Both conditions spawn from dissociation from emotions, which typically starts around the age of 2 years old.
Mental analysis of difficult or painful feelings becomes a young child's defense against experiencing emotional pain in the body. As this practice is consistently repeated over and over, it becomes a habituated. Ask a Borderline what he or she is aware of FEELING, and they'll tell you what they THINK. Their reply always starts out with: "I feel that . . . " which indicates a thought process, not a feeling one.
6. Addiction of ANY type: Drinking to excess, compulsive eating or overeating, porn, sex, masturbation, excessive gym workouts, illicit drug use, strict yoga discipline, hyper-religious or Buddhist practices, cult affiliation, and the list goes on and on. The addict's need, is to self-medicate core trauma pain, which remains in the body lifelong, until suitable help is obtained, to purge it from one's cells.
I think of full-blown Borderlines as people without skin holding them in. They're hyper-reactive to stimuli, because they're walking around in the world completely RAW. Emotionally speaking, without an epidermis, their insides are oozing-out all over the place.
Borderlines require a fairly rigid set of boundaries and guidelines to act as a container for them~ a protective shell if you will, to help them feel safer and more secure. It's far easier for a child to learn what to think, how to behave and what to believe when offered by a dogmatic organization or practice, than having to discern these things for themselves. Imagine a young child's emotional capacity to navigate life with all its complexities and challenges, in an adult body~ and nobody in their world can sense it.
7. Plagiarizing, mimicking and copying behaviors are very common. People with BPD traits typically borrow or steal from another's original ideas, concepts and views. Independent thought should be no more expected from a Borderline, than it is from a toddler. Many SEEM exceptionally bright and wise, but they're spouting or writing things they've mentally recorded from someone else. The Guru facet in these Borderlines is acutely pronounced, and people readily follow them, assuming their teachings are unique and original.
8. Accident prone. Most Borderlines are so preoccupied with compulsive thoughts, they're distracted from being in the moment, and paying attention to what their body is doing. In essence, their mind is a hundred miles away from where their body is sitting or standing, so it's on 'automatic pilot.' This leads of course, to accidents and injuries.
Some have reported ONLY being able to be physically present and "body-centered" during sexual engagement with another. There is however, such a powerful need to 'perform' within somebody with poor self-worth, that I question whether sexual intercourse can be an intensely pleasurable experience for them.
9. Borderlines are very hard on themselves. Part of the ALLURE of finding a romantic involvement, is they get to experience episodic respite and distraction from harshly shaming, guilting and critical inner-dialogue they deliver to themselves 24/7. This practice that began in early childhood, has become so automatic and reflexive, they typically have little or no awareness they're doing it.
Borderlines are NOT "bad" people. If you've been demolished emotionally by one, you'll disagree~ but the awful experiences you had to endure while with that person, is only the very tip of their iceberg.
There's so much richness underneath a Borderline's defenses and acting-out behaviors, it's truly a shame so many resist real healing and growth with a skilled guide who can help them discover, accept and learn to embrace all the layers underneath their self-protective armor that make them truly lovable beings~ both to you, AND themselves.
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Compassion in Action
Bible in a Year:
Song of Songs 4–5
Galatians 3
Clothe yourselves with compassion.
Today's Scripture & Insight:
Colossians 3:12–14
Building benches isn’t James Warren’s job. He started building them, however, when he noticed a woman in Denver sitting in the dirt while waiting for a bus. That’s “undignified,” Warren worried. So, the twenty-eight-year-old workforce consultant found some scrap wood, built a bench, and placed it at the bus stop. It quickly got used. Realizing many of the nine thousand bus stops in his city lacked seating, he made another bench, then several more, inscribing “Be Kind” on each one. His goal? “To make people’s lives just a little bit better, in any way I can,” Warren said.
Compassion is another way of describing such action. As practiced by Jesus, compassion is a feeling so strong that it leads us to take action to meet another’s need. When crowds of desperate people pursued Jesus, “he had compassion on them, because they were like sheep without a shepherd” (Mark 6:34). He turned that compassion into action by healing their sick (Matthew 14:14).
We too should “clothe [ourselves] with compassion,” Paul urged (Colossians 3:12). The benefits? As Warren says, “It fills me up. It’s air in my tires.”
All around us are needs, and God will bring them to our attention. Those needs can motivate us to put our compassion into action, and those actions will encourage others as we show them the love of Christ.
By: Patricia Raybon
Reflect & Pray
When did you see a hurt or need that, with compassion, you helped solve? How did your compassion make you feel?
As I see pain and need, Loving God, soften my heart to act with Christlike compassion. Amen.
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I go over 3 ways to foster a future for liberty. You can check out the books I mentioned below:
Healing The Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families
https://amzn.to/3sN3N7p
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships
https://amzn.to/3BAJuxR
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https://amzn.to/3v1Q92O
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#freedom #liberty #libertarian #libertarians #taxationistheft
The Conscious Resistance Network presents Ni Un Paso Atras: The Story of Cherán, Mexico
On April 15, 2011 residents of Cherán, Michoachan organized an armed resistance to fight off illegal logging and kidnapping in their community. The community kicked out politicians, police, and loggers accused of ties to the cartels overseeing the logging. The community organized out of necessity to protect their lands and their lives.
On April 15, 2021, the people of Cherán will celebrate ten years since their revolt against what they call “the narco government”. I recently traveled to Cheran and spoke with community members who were involved with the uprising and had relatives involved. I wanted to know what were the circumstances leading to the uprising and what was the final straw.
Please help us advance truth, healing, community building, and empowering the people to wake up and build a better world:
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The Conscious Resistance Network can be found here:
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SHARI SCHREIBER MA
DEC 17, 2022 (Complements of Substack)
It's the subtleties most don't comprehend about people with BPD traits~ NOT the obvious, stigmatic stuff you read on the Web that keeps this disorder from being eradicated. Allow me to explain.
We mostly think of Borderlines as bad, evil, volatile, violent and manipulative, but these characteristics are far end of the spectrum features of BPD. The fact is, most Borderlines are never diagnosed, because this is the MOST misunderstood disorder by laymen and clinicians, alike.
Below, are a few subtle BPD traits that keep these poor souls impaired, yet they're never recognized, either when assessing for borderline aspects within ourselves, or others:
1. Self-sabotage or self-defeating choices and/or behaviors.
2. Getting involved with BPD lovers: We are attracted to people who match our OWN level of emotional development, whether we possess Codependency features, and are compulsive fixers or rescuers, or not. Plenty of Borderlines are Codependency dual-diagnosed, which is seen most often among psychotherapists, coaches, doctors, nurses, and other "helping" practitioners.
3. Fear of bonding or attaching fully. This deep seated fear has people with BPD traits selecting lovers who CANNOT reciprocate their affection, and with whom there can be no positive future outcome (this is always blamed on the other, incidentally).
4. Poor choice of therapeutic support. Psychotherapists, shamans, Reiki practitioners, holistic professionals, self-help venues, Emotional Freedom techniques, psychoanalysis, DBT, CBT, etc., are often just hope-filled, "quick-fix" distractions to one's ability to locate the kind of help they need, to dismantle narcissistic and borderline facets, and actually HEAL.
5. Anxiety issues or panic attacks. Nearly all people with BPD traits suffer with an ongoing level of anxiety. Obsessive-Compulsive features are very common among emotionally underdeveloped individuals, as well. Both conditions spawn from dissociation from emotions, which typically starts around the age of 2 years old.
Mental analysis of difficult or painful feelings becomes a young child's defense against experiencing emotional pain in the body. As this practice is consistently repeated over and over, it becomes a habituated. Ask a Borderline what he or she is aware of FEELING, and they'll tell you what they THINK. Their reply always starts out with: "I feel that . . . " which indicates a thought process, not a feeling one.
6. Addiction of ANY type: Drinking to excess, compulsive eating or overeating, porn, sex, masturbation, excessive gym workouts, illicit drug use, strict yoga discipline, hyper-religious or Buddhist practices, cult affiliation, and the list goes on and on. The addict's need, is to self-medicate core trauma pain, which remains in the body lifelong, until suitable help is obtained, to purge it from one's cells.
I think of full-blown Borderlines as people without skin holding them in. They're hyper-reactive to stimuli, because they're walking around in the world completely RAW. Emotionally speaking, without an epidermis, their insides are oozing-out all over the place.
Borderlines require a fairly rigid set of boundaries and guidelines to act as a container for them~ a protective shell if you will, to help them feel safer and more secure. It's far easier for a child to learn what to think, how to behave and what to believe when offered by a dogmatic organization or practice, than having to discern these things for themselves. Imagine a young child's emotional capacity to navigate life with all its complexities and challenges, in an adult body~ and nobody in their world can sense it.
7. Plagiarizing, mimicking and copying behaviors are very common. People with BPD traits typically borrow or steal from another's original ideas, concepts and views. Independent thought should be no more expected from a Borderline, than it is from a toddler. Many SEEM exceptionally bright and wise, but they're spouting or writing things they've mentally recorded from someone else. The Guru facet in these Borderlines is acutely pronounced, and people readily follow them, assuming their teachings are unique and original.
8. Accident prone. Most Borderlines are so preoccupied with compulsive thoughts, they're distracted from being in the moment, and paying attention to what their body is doing. In essence, their mind is a hundred miles away from where their body is sitting or standing, so it's on 'automatic pilot.' This leads of course, to accidents and injuries.
Some have reported ONLY being able to be physically present and "body-centered" during sexual engagement with another. There is however, such a powerful need to 'perform' within somebody with poor self-worth, that I question whether sexual intercourse can be an intensely pleasurable experience for them.
9. Borderlines are very hard on themselves. Part of the ALLURE of finding a romantic involvement, is they get to experience episodic respite and distraction from harshly shaming, guilting and critical inner-dialogue they deliver to themselves 24/7. This practice that began in early childhood, has become so automatic and reflexive, they typically have little or no awareness they're doing it.
Borderlines are NOT "bad" people. If you've been demolished emotionally by one, you'll disagree~ but the awful experiences you had to endure while with that person, is only the very tip of their iceberg.
There's so much richness underneath a Borderline's defenses and acting-out behaviors, it's truly a shame so many resist real healing and growth with a skilled guide who can help them discover, accept and learn to embrace all the layers underneath their self-protective armor that make them truly lovable beings~ both to you, AND themselves.
Herbal remedies: How to use jimsonweed for natural healing
https://www.naturalnews.com/2022-08-16-how-to-use-jimsonweed-for-natural-healing.html
Knowing how to use herbal remedies is an important prepping skill, but you also need to learn about an herb’s pros and cons so you can use it safely and properly. (h/t to PrepSchoolDaily.Blogspot.com) Jimsonweed (Datura stramonium) is a plant that is poisonous to cattle. It may also have adverse effects on humans, but when […]
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September 24
Compassion in Action
Bible in a Year:
Song of Songs 4–5
Galatians 3
Clothe yourselves with compassion.
Today's Scripture & Insight:
Colossians 3:12–14
Building benches isn’t James Warren’s job. He started building them, however, when he noticed a woman in Denver sitting in the dirt while waiting for a bus. That’s “undignified,” Warren worried. So, the twenty-eight-year-old workforce consultant found some scrap wood, built a bench, and placed it at the bus stop. It quickly got used. Realizing many of the nine thousand bus stops in his city lacked seating, he made another bench, then several more, inscribing “Be Kind” on each one. His goal? “To make people’s lives just a little bit better, in any way I can,” Warren said.
Compassion is another way of describing such action. As practiced by Jesus, compassion is a feeling so strong that it leads us to take action to meet another’s need. When crowds of desperate people pursued Jesus, “he had compassion on them, because they were like sheep without a shepherd” (Mark 6:34). He turned that compassion into action by healing their sick (Matthew 14:14).
We too should “clothe [ourselves] with compassion,” Paul urged (Colossians 3:12). The benefits? As Warren says, “It fills me up. It’s air in my tires.”
All around us are needs, and God will bring them to our attention. Those needs can motivate us to put our compassion into action, and those actions will encourage others as we show them the love of Christ.
By: Patricia Raybon
Reflect & Pray
When did you see a hurt or need that, with compassion, you helped solve? How did your compassion make you feel?
As I see pain and need, Loving God, soften my heart to act with Christlike compassion. Amen.
Lessons reinforced by powerful testimonies of Global students
For three days I am teaching the 4 Keys to Hearing God's Voice at Global School of Supernatural Ministry.
This morning was the first day and they began with a dozen students coming up and giving one-minute testimonies of what God had done through them on the streets during the last week. They were powerful and we can all learn from them.
Here are some highlights.
They asked people if they had any pain they would like prayer for. When the response was “yes” they would find out the pain level, (1-10), and then pray for a couple of minutes and do an interview, Now what is the pain level? Often it took 2-4 prayer rounds of these short prayers and interviews before the person would report the pain was either gone or greatly reduced. Cool!
One person was gaining no forward movement so they asked him if there was someone he needed to forgive. There was, and he forgave the person and they prayed again, and his situation was greatly improved. Principle: Faith works by love, and his unforgiveness was blocking the flow of healing power. He released the person he was holding in judgment, and that set him free to experience a release of God’s healing power. Amen!
Others received words of knowledge for people and asked if they could share these words with the client, and upon receiving permission, shared them and experienced positive things occurring as a result.
Some clients were asked if they knew Jesus, and if they didn’t know Him as their personal Lord and Savior, they asked if anything was blocking them from receiving Jesus right now. When the response was “No, there is no reason for me not to receive Jesus now,” they would lead them in salvation prayer.
It was truly exciting to hear a dozen such 1-minute testimonies before I even started teaching.
This is the kind of stuff that our nation needs NOW! Let’s all be open to stepping out and asking folks these kinds of things. The world needs us to participate in this revival!
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